Envy in Relationships between Maternal Dyads

Abstract or Summary

Families where there are two maternal figures; maternal dyads, such as in blended families, are becoming increasingly common yet there are few social resources to support the mothers’ relationship. I contend that envy is one of the affects that may be present and because it is linked to shame is difficult to acknowledge and work through. Envy is such a powerful and painful emotion that it can override other emotions like compassion, love, and gratitude. Thus, because envy blocks emotions such as gratitude and generosity, while it is in play the formation of more empathic relationships are inhibited. This paper explores contemporary understandings of envy, its potential sources and effects and argues that we need to develop new cultural resources that support women in these complex relationships.